Hello anyone,
Long time no blog! Well, let's see what I can talk about today. Oh I know!! RELATIONSHIPS!!! My favorite topic ever (sarcasm). Let's dig in, shall we?
I was talking to my cousin the other day and one of her exes popped up in the conversation. She was with this guy, on and off, for 7 years. I went to Jr. High with him actually and introduced them. They broke up so many times, I started to wonder if it will really ever be over. After they broke up with each other, they would date other people as if they really had moved on. Currently they are off and he has a girlfriend. She's seeing people also. I'm not sure if they will be off forever or if they will go right back to each other when/if their other relationships fail.
This story brings me to my title question, "Is It Really Over?" A lot of people end relationships with the intent of it being over FOREVER! However, just like the Chingy f/ Tyrese song goes, "Every time I try to leave, something keeps pulling me back..." Mmmmhmmm that's so true. It's like when you're eating a bag of Lay's potato chips and you get a handful but, find your hand going right back in the bag as soon as your hand is empty.
What happens to make us do this? I can give you the deep spiritual reason or the psychological reason. Which one do you want? I'll give both. Deep spiritual reason: Soul tie! Don't get me wrong. All soul ties aren't bad. There are good soul ties and evil soul ties. You have to determine which one you have going on with the person in question. Anytime you let a person enter your life and world, you create a connection. The strength of connection depends on how long you've associated with that person and sometimes the level of interaction. It could also depend on the value you place on your time and actions. Holding hands to some might be not be worth as much as relations. To each is own. Sexual intercourse holds a lot of weight. Have you ever been in the presence of someone you've had sex with and had a memory of that moment? That's a pretty big sign that your souls are tied. Soul ties can be broken through patience, meditation and time.
The psychological reason is we're comfortable with that person. Somehow, we get the idea that it might work out this time. We want it to work out so bad, with them, that we try to make it work over and over again. I'm sure I could come up with more to say but, I've been delaying this blog for a few weeks now.
It's hard to walk away when you aren't completely ready. Hopefully couples who go back to each other can make a final decision that will make each other happy and the ones who have to deal with them.
i love the food analogy! everything sounds better in food. lol. joking aside, this is a wonderful post. the topic is relevant to us all. it may not necessarily be a person that we have a soul tie with but maybe a thing, like music, religion, etc. if the soul tie is ungodly, that means that you have placed that person or thing before God therefore worshipping them or it. i think the topic of sexually impure relationships creating soul ties is very much needed, especially in the church. one of my pastors said that, "if you lay down (sleep) with crazy you might wake up crazy". it's that serious. getting back to the question of "is it really over?", we will never be fully delivered from a habit or such until Christ comes back for us (God's Righteous). But the word says, "pray lest ye fall into temptation". That means that you can live without that person or thing that is a hinderance to you. You may be tempted to go back into those old relationships & habits but you don't have to let it overcome you. So for anyone who is ready to cut the ungodly soul ties, give it to God.
ReplyDeleteAmen! I totally agree with your entire comment. A lot of people feel like, "well, I've been doing it or with them forever so I might as well keep it up." When we give it to God and let him have his way, there is NOTHING we can't walk away from. :o) Thank you so much for reading my blog. I really appreciate it! :o)
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