Hello anyone,
Long time no blog! Well, let's see what I can talk about today. Oh I know!! RELATIONSHIPS!!! My favorite topic ever (sarcasm). Let's dig in, shall we?
I was talking to my cousin the other day and one of her exes popped up in the conversation. She was with this guy, on and off, for 7 years. I went to Jr. High with him actually and introduced them. They broke up so many times, I started to wonder if it will really ever be over. After they broke up with each other, they would date other people as if they really had moved on. Currently they are off and he has a girlfriend. She's seeing people also. I'm not sure if they will be off forever or if they will go right back to each other when/if their other relationships fail.
This story brings me to my title question, "Is It Really Over?" A lot of people end relationships with the intent of it being over FOREVER! However, just like the Chingy f/ Tyrese song goes, "Every time I try to leave, something keeps pulling me back..." Mmmmhmmm that's so true. It's like when you're eating a bag of Lay's potato chips and you get a handful but, find your hand going right back in the bag as soon as your hand is empty.
What happens to make us do this? I can give you the deep spiritual reason or the psychological reason. Which one do you want? I'll give both. Deep spiritual reason: Soul tie! Don't get me wrong. All soul ties aren't bad. There are good soul ties and evil soul ties. You have to determine which one you have going on with the person in question. Anytime you let a person enter your life and world, you create a connection. The strength of connection depends on how long you've associated with that person and sometimes the level of interaction. It could also depend on the value you place on your time and actions. Holding hands to some might be not be worth as much as relations. To each is own. Sexual intercourse holds a lot of weight. Have you ever been in the presence of someone you've had sex with and had a memory of that moment? That's a pretty big sign that your souls are tied. Soul ties can be broken through patience, meditation and time.
The psychological reason is we're comfortable with that person. Somehow, we get the idea that it might work out this time. We want it to work out so bad, with them, that we try to make it work over and over again. I'm sure I could come up with more to say but, I've been delaying this blog for a few weeks now.
It's hard to walk away when you aren't completely ready. Hopefully couples who go back to each other can make a final decision that will make each other happy and the ones who have to deal with them.
